I bear in mind speaking to a good friend after church a few years in the past. At that time, I had been on my texlax journey for two years and was pleased with the progress it had made. I had washed my hair on Saturday and meant to place it into field braids after church so I might put on my wig to work come Monday morning. I wore it in a cute (in my view) poofy trying bun and off to church I went.
During our catch up, with a glance of real concern, my good friend mentioned, “ Your hair is due for a contact up, it’s best to get it completed quickly as a result of your hair doesn’t look neat”. I excitedly defined to her that my hair was texlaxed and that I had had a contact up simply two weeks prior. I attempted to inform a couple of issues about wholesome hair care.
Lets simply say she didn’t get it. As far as she was involved my hair simply wasn’t tidy and she or he reiterated that I wanted one other contact up as a result of the final one clearly didn’t work.
She wasn’t the primary or final individual to make such feedback. These days its feedback about my hair not trying shiny sufficient or your hair is sweet however don’t you need to get it completed aka styled. Fortunately for me I’ve by no means been one to be simply influenced by the views of others about my look so such feedback have by no means a had any detrimental impact on my psyche.
I had seen the wholesome hair care gentle at that time. I had re-learned loads about what black hair is meant to be aesthetically each in its pure and relaxed states. And I used to be tremendous with it.
The concern I’ve and why I made a decision to write down this publish is as a result of the hair of so many black girls is being destroyed by the idea of neatness. Whilst we have now this time, I want to write posts which I hope will problem us to achieve a greater perceive the character of our hair and to see the sweetness in it in whichever state we select to put on it’s it pure, texlaxed, relaxed or loc’ed.
Failure to take action has lead numerous girls to maintain everlasting hair loss and plenty of extra are on that path.
Afro hair is textured.
Even relaxed hair retains a point of texture.
When we get a contemporary relaxer, our hair would possibly look very glossy for some time however after a couple of washes, the feel retained is often obvious. This is why relaxed hair typically doesn’t mix properly with Caucasian and Asian hair extensions and the usage of closures, frontals or flat irons on the relaxed hair is required to cover the telling distinction in texture. Relaxed hair remains to be black hair. It is not going to look transfer or behave like different hair sorts. And remenber even totally relaxed hair shouldn’t be relaxed past 80% as a result of past this level an excessive amount of injury (aka protein loss) would have occured and the hair would have misplaced its elasticity. This is only one instance in why the idea of wholesome relaxed hair is feasible, ie wholesome by relaxed hair requirements, however thats a battle for one more day.
This could not apply to over processed relaxed hair however even hair that’s over-processed can have some lovely new progress spring up inside a couple of weeks.
Our hair is textured and the extra texture we get rid of, the extra injury is brought about to our hair.
The texture of our hair which is one in every of its defining traits, even in its relaxed state, is sadly perceived by many inside our personal communities as untidy, tough and in want of “fixing”. So we pull, stretch, gel, smoothen and trace of texture away and put the well being of our hair in danger each time we do that. Please don’t confuse this with merely making textured hair look tidy or each day grooming.
Moisturizing, sealing and utilizing a really comfortable brush will make our hair look neat however by no means give the extent of sleekness I’m referring to.
The downside is that this, what’s neat for afro textured hair (pure or relaxed) mustn’t and can’t be what’s neat by Caucasian or Asian hair aesthetics. Our hair should not be judged by these requirements.
Put it this fashion, our hair is completely different and our neatness is completely different too. Our presentable will not be their presentable
Understanding this will likely simply assist a couple of girls keep away from the surplus or day by day use of edge management merchandise mixed with a really agency brush.
It could assist a girl with lower than one inch of recent progress put the relaxer down for a couple of extra weeks. (this will likely not apply to pixie cuts however that may be a story for one more day).
It could assist a couple of girls keep away from having their in loopy tight buns and ponytails with a lot stress and gel that their afro hair which is massive and poofy in its true state turns into utterly flattened.
There is nothing fallacious with such types when completed sometimes and with loads of warning.
Done repeatedly and incorrectly, the above acts typically results in traction alopecia and different kinds of hair loss which many women don’t totally bounce again from relying on its severity and the extent of harm sustained.
Before we attempt to “neaten” our hair, allow us to simply pause to ask ourselves; is my hair truly tough/untidy or is simply black hair being its textured self? Are we assessing the neatness by the proper requirements? Or we nonetheless judging our magnificence by means of the fallacious lens.
I hope this publish helps somebody studying take a look at the hair and grade its neatness in a brand new gentle
Another publish will probably be up in a couple of days so see you quickly.
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